Technically, Tims right that current dating doesnt actually occur on online dating websites, but thats what the industry is called. Matching algorithms based on likes and interests fail miserably in this way. In my opinion love should happen organically, evolving from a friendship between two people that enjoy the others company. I wonder, of those dates you did have, did you speak on the phone with them first. But using common sense and taking certain steps prevents a lot of unnecessary drama. Of course this is also colored by the fact that I was simply older and more self-aware at the time.
We have been married 7 1/2 years and he is my best friend. I think it is beautiful to avoid that flash judgment and really get down to who the person is before making a decision regarding your compatibility. My advise to anyone dating online would be to meet the person as soon as possible dont drag it out online debate against online dating. It can never replace meeting people in person. It also lacks the pre-filter of online dating. As for what dating sites of the future would look like, I think it would be great if they had well-done videos of each participant instead of (or in addition to) a written profile.
Creating an online profile designed to highlight your appealing qualities is not all that different from creating a resume designed to highlight your skills and experience, when you think about it. Shannon Stoney I have met some scary people doing online dating. Well, I believe that hanging out in bars never helped anyone.. maybe you can report your match for inappropriate conduct and if this happens to many times that person is locked out from the video conference function. I just want to point out that a linear increase in chance of finding the perfect person is not achieved by dating more people, but there are adverse effects. Its still a decent way to meet people though, but imo people are too obsessed with meeting someone perfect that they dont really pay attention to what;s out there.